Winning can be an irresistible temptation which explains why Americans spend more on legal gambling than movies, music, and sports events combined. There is the excitement, the true love to win, and the competition. Many people do not intend to get hooked but with mourning financial pressures, the burden of a big family, and daily life issues, they simply become addicted to gambling.
At first, it might seem like a hobby. One day a week turns into two and within six months such people are gambling everyday. They become addicted and miss important events in their lives, birthdays, children’s events, important meetings, etc. Then they start to chase their losses, spending more than they get back. They feel sorry for themselves; they feel that their situation gets out of control and they start to lie. They feel guilty for their lies and their addiction, but they know they deserve that lifestyle.
According to Cara Vaggio from NGO ““, “families must be supportive and try to help out the loved ones to overcome the addiction while concomitantly preventing the real possibility of getting bankrupt. It is known that men get hooked more easily than women. In such a circumstance, the wife must take control on mutual finances and put the assets on her name. Otherwise, the risk of losing everything would be a dim and likely probable scenario.”
Janice T., mother of two – “When I eventually uncovered his gambling addiction, I became angry, and I wished he’d rather be on a boat than be homeless my children and I. It wasn’t like he physically cheated on me with another woman.”
Along with severe personality changes such as malice, angriness, abusive demeanors, etc. the need for money levels up concomitantly. Addicted people start stealing and selling household belongings or personal items. James M, an accountant and formerly addicted to gambling – “I sold my wife’s jewelry, my wedding ring, my son baseball cards… I went into my parents home at four in the morning and took the computer and sold it. I needed money to do my thing and nobody understood.”
For people with strong gambling addiction, rehab centers seem to be the last resort. However, most of the times, it comes up with no lasting success. James M. – “I decided to try one more time for nine weeks in the rehab center to quit gambling, smoking, and drinking. This time, the rehab was excellent. But, as a person with strong Christian beliefs, I knew this was not the key. If I had any hope whatsoever and didn’t give a hundred percent to God, I wouldn’t succeed.”
As a conclusion, when you gamble, you lose touch with the real meaning of money beyond endangering your self-esteem, your relationship or even your business. Money becomes not fifty dollar notes; you lose touch with the fact that money is actually what you’ve earned out of your hard work. This money is what you pay for the food in the supermarket, for your bills, or for enjoying pleasant moments with your family.