Does your man come home looking like this? Whether he’s been out doing hard and dirty work, or just working too hard to take good care of himself lately, it’s starting to feel a little bit like you live with a lumberjack. And not in a good way.
You find yourself thinking that you’d be really excited to see the handsome, well-groomed, relaxed man you started dating, actually married, or have at least seen on occasion throughout your relationship. You’re probably hoping that he looks a bit more like this, from time to time:
So what’s the best strategy for launching Operation Man Transformation? Whether the man in your life needs some serious relaxation or just an update on his grooming status, we’ve got five ways to rock his world and take him from Eww to GQ in a single day. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to facilitate a day of complete luxury, pleasure, and indulgence for your husband or boyfriend. If he usually resists the idea of killing an afternoon in the spa, don’t worry. We’ve got you covered.
Problem: He’s stressed out to the point of being a grizzly bear, but is short on time.
Solution: For the Type-A overachiever in your life that needs a fast solution to a tension problem, book a short massage. The idea here is to promise that the massage will just focus on the worst places we carry tension (neck, shoulders, and back) and it won’t take more than half an hour. It’s easy to squeeze in during a lunch break or on his commute home.
Problem: He needs some serious muscle pain love, because of long hours at the computer or aggressive sports.
Solution: Whether he throws out his back playing weekend warrior or is starting to get “computer shoulders” from coding for 60 hours a week, sometimes there’s nothing better than giving in and getting a deep, fully relaxing massage. Before you book it, find out what kind of massage he wants –with a gentle touch or a Deep pressure session to force every ounce of tension from his tight muscles. Make it your treat, and pair it with a trip to his favorite restaurant (upscale or sports bar – however he rolls). He’ll appreciate your thoughtfulness for sure.
Problem: Being out in the sun, changes in the seasons, or general disinterest has left his complexion a mess.
Solution: You probably won’t hear your husband or boyfriend complaining that his skin is losing that youthful glow. But you might notice he’s breaking out more, that he looks tired, or is suffering from dry skin. Don’t be afraid to suggest a facial. Here are the important data points: there are totally non frou-frou facials that are focused on men and emphasize skin health. They’re also massively relaxing, and often include a shoulder rub. He’ll never look better after a deeply cleaning and refreshing (but very manly!) facial. Don’t be afraid to tell him how kissable that’ll leave his skin, either.
Problem: His hands or feet need some serious love.
Solution: Feet are usually not people’s favorite body part, especially when they haven’t been taken care of. The good news is that there are manis and pedis totally customized to men, focused on exfoliation and basic grooming. They also come with an amazing hand or foot massage, which will send him straight to heaven. Buy him the latest issue of his favorite magazine, like Maxim or Sports Illustrated, and send it with him to read while he gets a pedicure.
Problem: The uni-brow has to go.
Solution: Manscaping is a serious subject. Sometimes you look over and realize that your man is rocking a uni-brow that puts Bert from Sesame Street to shame. A quick trip to the spa can lay the foundation for great grooming. Often, men who are self-conscious about this appreciate the help. Pair with another delicious spa treatment if needed to increase the appeal (a short massage is a great add-on). And restrict all viewing of movies with epic waxing scenes a la The 40 Year Old Virgin prior to the trip.
Whatever areas you’re prioritizing in your own Operation Man Transformation, remember: it’s all about creating a space where he feels loved and knows that you want to do something nice for him. Focus on the benefits and don’t be afraid to debunk myths about spas being only for woman.
About the author: Sarah Ramey is an experienced beauty writer. She resides in Portland, Oregon with her husband Ron, their two sons, and a golden retriever named Snuffy.